|This place does well with immature teenagers|
I had mixed feelings as I walked out of the subway to meet them. I was really excited to see them again, but I knew telling them I wasn't coming back would be tough. Both David and Ken have their math credits, so they wouldn't have had me this year anyway. That's me trying to rationalize the situation. The reality is, when you teach at-risk students and develop a mentorship, you just know you need to be around physically whether or not they're even on your roster. David and Ken are best friends, but unfortunately, they don't have many adults in their lives to guide them positively. These guys ask me all kinds of things via text, from questions about a job posting to fashion advice. No joke, last week Ken texted me a picture of a bearded hipster wearing flannel and an oversized knit cap asking, "Hey Mista, know where I could get one of these hats?"
|Hey kids, want to learn math and look good while you do it?|
After the kids got over the shock effect of the Big Gay Ice Cream Shop's name, we ordered our desserts and walked to a nearby park. After more small talk, I finally mustered up the courage to tell them I wasn't coming back to teach. David seemed to take it well and asked probing questions. "So, like what will you do? How did you even find it?" He can be very practical when he's not trying to be the class clown.
Ken, who has already gone through so much, fell silent. "I knew you wasn't coming back. I knew it. Nobody wanna buy me stuff unless it's doing good in school, or if it's bad they wanna say." Ken is not only very observant, he's also incredibly experienced with loss. He has experienced more trauma than most people I know will ever experience in the course of their lives. He turned to David, "I told you it was going to be bad. I told you!" This kid limited this own excitement for free ice cream based on prior experiences being taken out to eat. Damn.
We spent a good hour afterwards just talking and catching up. There were periods of insane, teenage laughter followed by short, awkward moments of silence. One thing was clear: no matter how many poop jokes were made, Ken's feelings were hurt. Three years ago, Ken was a very angry young boy who couldn't keep his trauma from seeping out of his skin during the school day. Now he was calm and somewhat himself. It made me feel so happy to see how much more resilience he'd developed in three years.
I promised David and Ken I would stay in touch and be responsive via text, Facebook messenger, or whatever else the kids end up using this year. Since meeting them weeks ago, I've gotten messages from them already. David asked me to help him sign up as a tasker on TaskRabbit, and Ken sent me more pictures of clothes followed up with questions on where to purchase them. "Ken, you're going to look like one of those hipsters that try to look like they haven't showered."
"Would you rather I look like a thug? ;-)"